A true sissygasm – orgasm without ejaculation

There are a lot of secrets about sexual pleasure. One of the greatest for sissies is that you can learn to orgasm without your clitty ejaculating. And once you achieve this, the orgasms you can experience are mindblowing.

Why I find sissygasms deeply erotic

For me as a Dominant, sissygasms are the pinnacle of sissy conditioning. It means sissy’s whole body and mind have been broken of traditional male sexual responses and reprogrammed to instil a more feminine sexual response and multi-orgasmic abilities. This gives me a huge mental D/s kick – it feels like a victory over the heteronormative conditioning we’re all bombarded with. It also feel like pure erotic Dominance to fuck your sissy into a multi-orgasmic, whimpering mess as they writhe and climax underneath you time and again…clitty limp, body on fire, pussy contracting around your strapon, helplessly unable to stop cumming. This gets me off. Time after time.

What defines a sissygasm

There seems to be a lot of confusion about what actually constitutes a sissygasm, because this term is appended to a number of different ways to climax and types of orgasm.

So, for clarity, this is my way of distinguishing it. 

A sissygasm is a climax reached by pussy stimulation alone, more specifically prostate stimulation, that does not cause ejaculation or a drop in sexual arousal. There is a total absence of refractory period after orgasm, and in fact sexual arousal remains high. With continued pussy stimulation, sissy can roll from one orgasm to the next in quick succession, with intensity of each climax remaining high or even increasing.

During this, their clitty remains limp, or if it does get hard, it’s not registering as a pleasure centre. It’s likely to leak precum, especially as sissy’s pussy contracts, but there should be no sign of tell-tale rhythmic squirts of cum. The other phenomena that you might get is leaking or squirting of prostatic fluid (sometimes with pee mixed in)…but again, this isn’t ejaculation. There is no clitty pleasure during these moments.

And for all the sceptics out there, there is science to back up both the rewiring of the brain and the hyper-pleasurable sensations of prostate orgasms. Sissygasms are not a myth. https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/ca.23006 Read the paragraphs ‘Recreative functions’ and ‘The brain rewiring concept’.

What isn’t a sissygasm

In short, any sort of climax that involves ejaculation. Eg bouncing up and down on dildo and ejaculating hands-free is not a sissygasm. There’s a lot of confusion about sissygasms as many sissies talk about any type of hands-free, penetration-aided orgasm as a sissygasm. For me, this doesn’t count because it’s still a clitty-led orgasm…helped by pussy stimulation. But if you’ve reached the stage of cumming hands-free, you could well have taken your first steps towards a proper, body-shaking, big ‘O’ sissygasm.

Why sissygasms are worth achieving

Apart from ecstatic multiple orgasms, there are lots of positives to sissygasms.

  • A sissy gets to experience a female orgasm
  • It lets a sissy feel stripped of all masculine sexuality
  • It’s useful for sissies who have any dysphoria around their clitty, as they can experience sexual pleasure without it
  • It’s equally useful for sissies who can’t get hard and struggle to cum in a conventional way
  • Sissies can ‘cum’ while remaining technically chaste
  • A sissy remains capable of having traditional clitty orgasms if required – it’s a myth that rewiring makes you lose this ability
  • When submitting in a session, a sissygasm is a way a Dominant can permit pleasure while keeping sissy horny and keen to serve
  • It’s a strong reminder of how irrelevant a sissy’s clit really is
  • Videoing your sissy while they are ‘stuck on orgasm’ and climaxing like a wanton slut makes for wicked post-session humiliation. Make them watch the vid…as you watch them blush and squirm. *dark smile*

Conscious uncoupling – where to start

Uncoupling orgasm from ejaculation takes time, the right mental outlook, a plan and the right toys. There is a lot to it – far too much to go into in this post. And my sissy, amanda, might be best placed to write about it as she’s living, breathing proof that it’s achievable.

However, any sissy can start down this path today, with or without a Dominant to instruct them. I’ll offer three pieces of advice to get you going. One – avoid vibrating toys while you’re learning to focus on prostate pleasure. You need to use your pussy muscles to achieve pleasure and sensation. Vibrations can be quite numbing internally yet trigger your clitty.

Two – allow plenty of time for conditioning sessions – it’ll take time for your body to ‘wake up’ to feeling pleasure in a new way. Allow yourself an hour if possible.

Three – don’t expect too much to start with – it’s a slow burn, so if you spend 30 minutes that feel moderately pleasurable, be pleased with this. You may think you’ll not feeling much at all to start with, but the more you use your pussy muscles, the stronger the sexual feeling will become.

Oh and remaining chaste really helps. Stay horny, don’t play with your clitty and focus all your cravings for pleasure on your pussy.

The right toys for beginners

This model of Aneros – Aneros Helix Trident: https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=39261

The Njoy Pure wand: https://www.uberkinky.co.uk/njoy-pure-wand-stainless-steel-dildo-92911.html

Anal lube: https://www.uberkinky.co.uk/pjur-analyse-me-lubricant-100ml-81224.html

Other useful links

Aneros forums – (bear in mind it’s all pretty male-centric, but you’ll find a few sissy contributors) https://www.aneros.com/community/forum/

A useful resource for understanding all the Aneros jargon: http://wiki.malegspot.com/index.php?title=Glossary

Sissygasm – a Fetlife group led by my sissy amanda: https://fetlife.com/groups/120622

I’d love to hear your experiences. Why not leave a comment?

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  1. Hello Mistress Virago, another excellent article, well written.
    i have very little experience but thought i would share one with You, not a sissygasm as You’ve described but an enjoyable event for me none the less.

    An ex partner (female) enjoyed dressing me, always treating me to clothes and lingerie, on this occasion I was treated to a new bra and knicker set and silky hold-up stockings. i slipped them on in front of her, she told me to lie on her bed. She then secured my wrists to the bed frame, left my legs free but slipped on my patent heels.

    She knelt between my legs and started to play with my clitty. She had various toys she would use on me as well, but this time she said she wanted to use her fingers to reach my prostrate. She was a nurse and knew exactly where to go!

    She told me to raise my knees with my heels placed flat-ish on her bed. With a little lube she entered, a first for me and it was amazing, she could easily tell I was enjoying it. One thing I do remember was my pussy became very very wet and she was slipping in and out with ease. Whilst continuing she started to play with my clitty again. For me this was a new level of pleasure, fantastic and it wasn’t long before I exploded with such force I shot her in the eye! She shrieked out saying it was stinging! At the same time my pussy muscles clenched really hard and she couldn’t pull her finger out….she told me to relax and soon she was able to retract it.

    We laughed about it after but it was a great experience for both of us and fond memories of it.

    Sadly we parted a few months later but we are still in touch and this story usually crops up in conversation every now and again.

    Your article sounds amazing and hopefully one day I may experience similar with a lady!

    Best wishes

    Maria

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