An unsafe place for sissies

We all know certain regions of the world face challenging circumstances around human rights due to regimes and religious beliefs. And these issues tend to be discussed with a ‘big picture’ perspective. Kink/BDSM certainly doesn’t feature. But within that ‘big picture’, there are individuals, who are impacted daily by the prevailing culture. And this was brought home to me in very personal terms by a sissy who wrote to me this week.

I’ve promised to keep this person anonymous, but I have their permission to use their message verbatim.

“Hello, mistress. You seem like heaven to me right now.. and here’s why. As you can see, I seem like a regular guy but actually I’m not. It’s so unfortunate how a geographical location can shift almost your entire life.. I live in the middle east (God’s hell on earth) and since I was born it was my biggest tragedy.. as I grew up and years passed I came to the fact of realizing that I’m not a man and I could never be one.. so I started going into the sissification and feminization way, and just then and for the very first time in my life I finally felt home!

I always felt like I belong to someone, I always have felt the urge of being owned, humiliated, degraded.. I’ve been craving it for so long but that’s pretty much all I can do about it.. where I’m at, I easily could be killed for coming out as even just a regular gay guy, not mentioning coming out as the sissy I am with all my needs. It was so hard being deprived from one of the humans basic rights.. feeling the pleasure of being yourself with someone who actually want you and accept you for who you really are.

It caused me so much pain, so much sadness until recently it started making me so depressed.. the fact that I could never find a Dom. It hits really hard that many nights I had to cry myself to sleep silently. I don’t know why exactly I’m writing all of that.. I hope that all other sissies around the world whom came out or found a Dom to own them know how lucky they are and how they should never ever take it for granted (just like that sissy who sent you that rude selfish message on twitter) I’ve been reading everything you wrote on your site and I’m totally heart taken by you.. hopefully I’ll be lucky enough one day to be owned by you.. I’d proudly write it on my account just like all of your other lucky sissies. If you reached this far I’d like to thank you so much for taking the time to read my message.”

Supporting rights where you can

I found this message deeply moving. My heart goes out to this sissy and every kinky person who can’t be themselves due to the place they live. From my privileged position in the UK, one thing I can do is look for opportunities to support any campaign, charity or pressure group for women’s, trans and gay rights in countries where change is desperately needed. Because ‘sissy’ falls on the trans/femme spectrum. And the safer women, trans people and the gay community are, the safer sissies are.

If you’re one of the lucky ones, live it

What stood out to me in this message was this sissy’s plea to those who live somewhere more tolerant…to “know how lucky you are and not take it for granted.” This is powerful advice.  

I know many of us have our own struggles with self-acceptance over our gender identity and our kinks. Sissies face a lot of emotional hurdles. But this message reminded me that having the freedom to struggle is a privilege, and not one to be squandered. You get one life. So, shake off your fears, be kind to yourself and reach for the things you really want. It could be as simple as buying your first pair of panties or posting a ‘seeking’ ad, or as brave as attending a munch, seeing a ProDomme or telling your partner that you’re a sissy.

A reminder that you never know who you reach

The fact I receive this message at all hinged on a ‘follow’ request on my Twitter. I’m careful about who I accept on Twitter, especially when it comes to those have zero FemDom content in their Twitter stream. This follow request came from a male-identifying person, who’d tweeted about football. I weighed it up and tapped the tick icon. And a few hours later, that message arrived.

This reminded me that choosing to ‘accept’ could mean more to someone than I’d ever guess.

If you’re one of the lucky ones, live it

What stood out to me in this message was this sissy’s plea to those who live somewhere more tolerant…to “know how lucky you are and not take it for granted.” This is powerful advice.  

I know many of us have our own struggles with self-acceptance over our gender identity and our kinks. Sissies face a lot of emotional hurdles. But this message reminded me that having the freedom to struggle is a privilege, and not one to be squandered. You get one life. So, shake off your fears, be kind to yourself and reach for the things you really want. It could be as simple as buying your first pair of panties or posting a ‘seeking’ ad, or as brave as attending a munch, seeing a ProDomme or telling your partner that you’re a sissy.

A reminder that you never know who you reach

The fact I received this message at all hinged on a ‘follow’ request on my Twitter. I’m careful about who I accept on Twitter, especially when it comes to those have zero FemDom content in their Twitter stream. This follow request came from a male-identifying person, who’d tweeted about football. I weighed it up and tapped the tick icon. And a few hours later, that message arrived.

This reminded me that choosing to ‘accept’ could mean more to someone than I’d ever guess.

The Middle Eastern sissy summed this up in another reply to me.

“Just the fact that you actually took the time to read my long messages and even took the time to write a full reply makes my heart melt! You’re actually the first acceptance that I’ve ever had before! Even though it’s almost impossible.. but I’ll never give up on finding the Mistress that I belong to. Much much love for you and your message. Your admiring sissy.”

If you are reading this, secret sissy, thank you again for sharing your situation with me. I’m touched that you reached out to me.

For every sissy reading this who can’t reach out because of where you live, just know I’m wishing the best for you too.

If you have a story relating to this blog that you’d like to share, please leave a comment. You never know who might read it and take comfort from it.

Credit for the image: Photo by Sam Moqadam on Unsplash

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