‘Hey sissy’ – erotic name-calling

I love verbal humiliation. It’s like gifting pain. When you have a sissy who craves a tongue lashing, it’s a powerful play within the D/s dynamic. Ripping someone to shreds verbally can be a deeply erotic experience, both as the ‘bully’ and the ‘victim’. I use those quotes deliberately. Every harsh word I hit someone with is desired and consensually received. 

Although quite a few sissies have a love/hate relationship with verbal humiliation and name-calling, they can’t deny how much it turns them on. As a Dominant, I feed off their reaction – blushing, squirming, groaning with shame, breath catching, clitty throbbing…their emotional reaction made physical. 

Trigger Warning
I’m under no illusion that erotic name-calling leads us into some tricky, triggering territory.
If you’re likely to be triggered by unacceptable, aggressive, abusive language, bow out now – this article isn’t for you.  

A sissy by any other name

“Sissy” holds a whole world of implications and inferences. I’m fascinated by all the different names and descriptors that swirl around sissies because they tell us a lot about society’s views.  

To explore this, I wrote down all the names I could think of and had my three sissies do the same. What emerges from this list are the traits sissies are badged with and shamed for. 

And it’s a catalogue of homophobia, effeminophobia, misogyny, transphobia and kink shaming. Hardly surprising. Society historically has disapproved of behaviours and desires that fall outside traditional gender roles. And there seems to be a lingering contempt towards guys who don’t fit masculine norms. However, a few names on this list are thrown at women. So it seems sissies can be insulted as both an effeminate man and a woman. 

Despite all that, or actually because of it, I believe erotic name-calling can be redemptive and freeing used in the right ways. 

Wise words

Every sissy will find different names erotic, unerotic or downright offensive.

As a Dominant, you have to be sensitive to which names are ok for each sissy, and which are not. For example, one of my sissies has a hard limit on the word ‘fag’. Another of my sissies gets hard when I call her a ‘fag’. Luckily, I have a good memory. 

That word is particularly divisive, even in BDSM circles. I would only ever use it in a scene where the sissy I’m saying it to knows my real-life position on that word, on LGBTQIA+ issues and my own gender. (I’m non-binary trans and refer to myself as queer. I’ve also called people out for using that word in normal life.) Every sissy and Dominant will have different words that are on the ‘do not use’ list. Having a shared understanding of these helps to ensure that the wrong name doesn’t derail a session.

We love the ones we hurt the most     

I enjoy finding humiliating names and terms for my sissies. I like to use them in my written messages as well as in person when I’m sessioning with them. The funny thing is, no matter how cruel those shame-inducing insults sound, they are said with great underlying affection. This is important.

I need my sissy to know I value her just as she is…before I can really tear into her verbally. I need that bond…because a lot of the names I’m going to call her are true. “You’re a filthy little cocksucker.” “You’re a limp-wristed, panty-wearing pansy.” 

As the ‘mean girl’, I can look into her eyes as I call her those longed-for, dreaded, shiver-inducing, panty-dampening names. 

In the emotionally safe space of our session and my collar, my sissy can allow herself to feel the sting of those words, revel in the shame and eroticism of it all. 

This shows how layered D/s is. 

Call me by your names

As I mentioned, to help me with this collection, I asked all my sissies to give me as many names as they could think of. I actually had the thrill of making sissy amanda kneel on my floor and start her list whilst wearing her sissilicious pink satin dress. I was unimpressed that she only managed 12 names in the time she had, so I sent her home with the list with orders to continue writing names as she watched Eurovision. Her list is the image you see on this blog. So…here are the results…the collective efforts of one FemDom and three much-loved, verbally-abused sissies. *fond smile*

Sissy synonyms

Anal fuckslut

Ass eater

Ass kisser

Ass licker

Beta boi

Bimbo

Bint

Bitch

Boot kisser

Boy maid

Chaste slut

Chore whore

Clitcock

Cock ornament

Cock sleeve

Cock socket

Cock sucker

Cock whore

Cocksucker

Controlled toy

Creampuff

Cuck

Cuckold 

Cum guzzler

Cum skank

Cumdump

Cunt

Devoted slave

Effeminate doll

Fag

Fagarina

Faggot

Fairy

Femme doll

Flouncer

Fop

Frilly maid

Fuck doll

Fuck hole

Fuckpuddle of filth

Fuckpuppet

Fuck slut

Fuck toy

Fuckslave

Girly boi

Good girl

Hand fucker

Harlot

Ho

House maid

House slave

Jessie

Jizz bucket

Ladyboy

Limp wrist

Limpdick

Loser

Maid 

Meek boy

Nancyboy

Owned property

Pansy

Panty addict

Panty bitch

Panty eater

Panty sniffer

Pantywaist

Pantywimp

Panty whore

Pathetic

Pet

Piece of whipping meat

Pindick

Ponce

Poof

Possession

Premature squirter

Princess

Prissy

Prissykins

Property

Puff

Pussy

Pussyboi

Pussy-denied

Pussy licker

Queer 

Sexdoll

Sextoy

Shame doll

Shemale

Sheplacement

Skank

Skivvy

Slave

Slut

Spit-slut

Sub

T-girl

Tiny

Tinycock

Tramp

Tranny

TV

Weak boy

Weakling

Whore

Wimp

Woofter

Worthless

Wuss

More names to add?
If you have more sissy names, I’d love to hear them! Share in the comments.

7 thoughts on “‘Hey sissy’ – erotic name-calling

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  1. Things i have been called, in public non-kink contexts, over my life (both when growing up and in adulthood) that stunned me at the time (not in the good sense) , but became arousing in hindsight (perhaps a coping mechanism?) were, by gender of the proclaimer:
    (Women)
    –effete
    –effeminate
    –slight
    –frail
    –tiny (broadly regarding body in general, or about particular aspects such as wrists)
    –pussy (already posted above)

    (Men, and terms already posted above)
    –pussy
    –fairy

    i too was called a fag by both men and women, but this never took on an erotic sense as the derogatory term is supposed to apply to men, and i don’t see myself as such.

    Hope You are well…

    ancelina (from FL)

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    1. Hello ancelina
      Lovely to see you here and read your comments on this blog. You are unfailingly interesting. It’s funny that the aspects of your physical appearance that women have commented on are all things I find very attractive. Thank you for sharing your experiences.

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  2. You are most welcome, Mistress! i forgot an additional term, which came to mind when someone described me as such the other day (after writing my original post): “delicate”.

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  3. Hi Mistress Virago,

    i had a few that came to mind….

    Aids Carrier
    Cum-sponge
    Deep Throater
    Fluffer
    Needle Dick
    No-balls
    Pencil Dick
    Poofter
    Slag
    Tart
    Tucker
    Wiener

    i hope these please You.

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  4. And yet another recalled term that others used to described me (in my youth in particular): “feeble”…

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